So I’ve been a vegan for a good month now and eating with my family is starting to get more and more exhausting. I can’t sit through one dinner without someone making a remark on my veganism. Its either a joke or a comment and when I try to counter it with an argument they don’t take me seriously and they make a joke out of it. I hate sitting there having to watch them eat meat, dairy,etc. I knew they weren’t going to be immediately comfortable with my decision but now I feel like an outcast. I don’t want to alienate my family but I don’t want to continue eating with them knowing what happened to their “food” before it got on their plates. Its extremely uncomfortable and depressing. Has anyone ever gone through this? What should I do?
theyre your family, be straight up and tell them that theyre being disrespectful and it makes you feel uncomfortable. im sure they wouldnt like if you criticized theyre dietary choices like they do to yours!
I had the same problem at first with them but now they don’t really bother me about it, they don’t question when I say I’m dropping something or when I decline food… hell the just pass me the can or bottle now so I can check it and give them the prognosis. I keep telling my mum what’s in jelly (gelatine) and it annoys her as it puts her off…least she’s eating veggie jelly now instead! xD
try not to arue. tell them that you dont like their comments and tell them that this is your ethical decision.If they ask you ?’s on veganism be polite and know your stuff! People loooove to argue and make vegans upset trust me its what they want. I feel the same way too though! I just remind myself of Martin Luther King, womens rights, and slavery. In the past, abolitionists were mocked!!! Now they are heroes! It might take a while, but we will someday be seen as heroes. Besides, you will be healthier, live longer, have less acne, be prettier, and have better karma.
believe me i have gone through it i am an only child and my dad hunts ALL the time he thinks that meat is very important and his doctor says in order to get enough protein you need milk eggs or meat at least twice a day i am only 12 so he wont listen to me or believe me what i usually do is just try to eat a little with my family then ask to be excused. i respect my family and i am expected to be kind and proper so i am not going to be disrespectful by commenting at every dinner how bad meat eggs or dairy is but i also know a friend whose dad had very bad heart disease and diabetes my dad also has diabetes my friend went vegan and didn’t eat junk food now he as healthy as a horse in the wild so i am concerned about my dads health and i want to help him but am not disrespectful so every once and a while i will bring up Netflix( if you don’t have Netflix the use you tube ) and watch a documentary like forks over knives or fat sick and nearly dead in that way i feel i am helping him.
Ive been vegetarian for almost 6 years, and while almost no one makes comments about it any more, i used to deal with it ALOT.
I just got up and left, whether it was to go to the washroom, or take my food and eat somewhere else, eventually they stopped. My mom would always hold her arms open to hug me, but I just pushed her arms away and ignored them all.
Just went veg again for the second time (First time had to quit due to health problems), I live with my partner who’s a meat eater, and he wanted chicken breast yesterday. So I cooked it for him, and I just ate the sides (Corn and grilled potatoes) We still got to eat together and it wasn’t even a little bit awkward. You’re family just needs to be more supportive, give it time, if you stick to it, they’ll get used to it.
@Styna, eating with my family is also very important but I’m just tired of everything they have to say. I’ve tried telling them about the health benefits of becoming a vegan but they refuse to listen. Thank you for sharing though! I know it will calm down eventually and its reassuring that the same things happen to others.
I eventually just got used to the jokes and remarks. They mostly stopped when I told them a raw vegan diet has been proven to help fibromyalgia (which I’ve been dealing with for a few years, along with other things). It’s depressing how selfish humans can be. They’re ok with diet change if it benefits them, but that exact same diet change is unacceptable if its for the benefit of another living thing. Balls to that, I say! Anyway… As far as actually eating with them goes – I suppose a lot depends on how important the eating ritual is to your family. Personally, I’ve never understood why it’s so important to people, and perhaps it has something to do with having dealt with an eating disorder, but I generally prefer to eat alone. However, the ritual if extremely important to my dad’s side of the family. Holiday, birthday, or random family event, we always always always eat together. And I still get remarks like “how do you live on fruit?l” .. Because they don’t realize I’m only eating fruit at that event, since that’s the only thing I -can- eat at that event. People are very naive, and I’ve accepted that. But as far as actually eating with them goes… I honestly just don’t watch them while they eat.
Maybe that’s horrible? But eating together is important to my family, and I don’t get to see then often. I’ve told them all there is to possibly tell about a veg*n diet, and none of them will ever change. I’ve accepted that there are many more omnivores in the world than veg*ns, and that we will always have to deal with them on a daily basis, until the “revolution” lol.
And that’s why I’m a part of PETA. Because in everyday life, it feels like there’s nothing I can do. But here, it feels like I’m helping the greater cause
I had the same problem when I first made the transition. Try not to let them get to you and try to show them that veganism is tasty too. Making tasty meals will find a way to their heart through their stomach. http://vegweb.com/recipes