• Eating with family?

    Profile photo of newyork409

    Over a year ago

    So I’ve been a vegan for a good month now and eating with my family is starting to get more and more exhausting. I can’t sit through one dinner without someone making a remark on my veganism. Its either a joke or a comment and when I try to counter it with an argument they don’t take me seriously and they make a joke out of it. I hate sitting there having to watch them eat meat, dairy,etc. I knew they weren’t going to be immediately comfortable with my decision but now I feel like an outcast. I don’t want to alienate my family but I don’t want to continue eating with them knowing what happened to their “food” before it got on their plates. Its extremely uncomfortable and depressing. Has anyone ever gone through this? What should I do?

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  • Profile photo of Styna

    Over a year ago

    Maybe tell them if they don’t stop with the remarks, you will stop eating with them? I’m sure it wouldn’t have any effect on my family, but maybe it could work on yours?
    Keep hanging in there :)

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  • Profile photo of newyork409

    Over a year ago

    @Styna, eating with my family is also very important but I’m just tired of everything they have to say. I’ve tried telling them about the health benefits of becoming a vegan but they refuse to listen. Thank you for sharing though! I know it will calm down eventually and its reassuring that the same things happen to others.

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  • Profile photo of Styna

    Over a year ago

    I eventually just got used to the jokes and remarks. They mostly stopped when I told them a raw vegan diet has been proven to help fibromyalgia (which I’ve been dealing with for a few years, along with other things). It’s depressing how selfish humans can be. They’re ok with diet change if it benefits them, but that exact same diet change is unacceptable if its for the benefit of another living thing. Balls to that, I say! Anyway… As far as actually eating with them goes – I suppose a lot depends on how important the eating ritual is to your family. Personally, I’ve never understood why it’s so important to people, and perhaps it has something to do with having dealt with an eating disorder, but I generally prefer to eat alone. However, the ritual if extremely important to my dad’s side of the family. Holiday, birthday, or random family event, we always always always eat together. And I still get remarks like “how do you live on fruit?l” .. Because they don’t realize I’m only eating fruit at that event, since that’s the only thing I -can- eat at that event. People are very naive, and I’ve accepted that. But as far as actually eating with them goes… I honestly just don’t watch them while they eat.
    Maybe that’s horrible? But eating together is important to my family, and I don’t get to see then often. I’ve told them all there is to possibly tell about a veg*n diet, and none of them will ever change. I’ve accepted that there are many more omnivores in the world than veg*ns, and that we will always have to deal with them on a daily basis, until the “revolution” lol.
    And that’s why I’m a part of PETA. Because in everyday life, it feels like there’s nothing I can do. But here, it feels like I’m helping the greater cause :)

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  • Profile photo of Dagmar

    Over a year ago

    I had the same problem when I first made the transition. Try not to let them get to you and try to show them that veganism is tasty too. Making tasty meals will find a way to their heart through their stomach. http://vegweb.com/recipes

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