I feel like im living a double life when it comes to my animal activism. I want to go to protests and i want to do good for the animals. But my fiance is very anti-animal rights. And his whole family is very redneck meat eaters who shoot things for fun. And im sorry to say this, but if he finds out my “double life” i would choose him over the animals. And i dont want it to come to that. I wouldn’t stop being vegan, im forced to due to my health. And he understands that part. But i feel like i need to hide my activism from him. Whenever im on any animal rights video or site on the internet i delete my history because he used my laptop. Im always the first one to get the mail just in case some activism supplies come in. Even the books i read i some times hide. And we will so live together soon so it will be extra hard. Im just at a loss of what to do. The reason id choose him over the animals is because we were together before and he proposed before i ever got into the activism movement.
Anyone have any ideas on what i should do?
If he truly loves you, he wouldn’t expect you to change and stop doing something you love and care about. Hiding things from him is never a good idea. You shouldn’t need to hide part of your life from someone you’re about to marry.
Talk with him about it. He should understand and accept it, hopefully.
My boyfriend isn’t a vegan or vegetarian, but he understands that this is something I care about. Don’t hide things from him. Just sit down and explain to him more about what you’re doing. Put it into terms he can understand, but doesn’t change yourself for him. Good luck.
I’m vegan and my husband isn’t, but he respects that and he’s trying to eat less meat, eggs, etc; and he loves what I cook, if things weren’t like that, I’d probably decide to be alone and just have people who loves me how I am around me. So, I think he’s not the one for you.
(sorry for my English, I’m not good writing in a foreing language)
If he likes you too, he should understand and at lease acknowledge that you want to do good things for the animals. Like really. I’m not saying he has to agree with it, but just understand that that’s how you are.
Talk to him, and if that doesn’t solve it, well, good luck to you.