My boyfriend and I have been together since our sophomore year in high school (7 years now), and we live together.
I want him to stop eating meat. I’ve showed him some videos on factory farming, and I was disappointed in his reaction (of which wasn’t the same as mine). He has a huge heart and loves animals, and I know he knows its wrong.
We have always respected each others’ life choices, etc, but his choice to continue to eat meat is hard for me to accept. (Another good reason for him to stop eating meat is that his cholesterol levels are high.)
Last night we got subs for dinner and he ordered a turkey sandwich. On the drive home, he said that he wish he hadn’t gotten turkey because he remembered the turkey in Ingrid Newkirk’s documentary that she had rescued from Butterball (we had just watched it the night before). I was so happy that he even thought about that turkey (most people dismiss that sort of that info before they eat).
I want to encourage him to stop eating meat, but I do not want to force it on him because I don’t want him to “do it for me”; we’ve had arguments about me “putting peta stuff everywhere in our apartment”.
What is the correct way of approaching this situation with respect for BOTH my boyfriend and the animals?
I agree with everyone else that you can’t really force it. I definitely would try to have more vegan/vegetarian meals together and show him that its not all so bad. Even if he cut out a little meat, he is doing something.
My boyfriend is the same. It’s become a problem since sharing morals is a huge part of having a healthy relationship. He is very set in his ways and is going into the army soon (where I’m not even sure if they cater to food preferences?) and the only compromise I’ve gotten out of him is to eat the vegan meals I make him at home. When we go out, he eats what he wants, and it does upset me, but sometimes you can’t get completely through to a person. We’ve both grown up in South Texas as well, to give an idea of the culture we’re in. My best advice would be to start filling the home with a variety of vegan options, mainly alternative “meats” and cheeses, to ease them into the lifestyle.
I understand that it’s hard to be in a relationship with someone who eats meat; my girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now and sometimes I don’t understand how she could eat a burger rather than a veggie burger. But then I remember that I didn’t grow up in a vegan household and have consumed meat before and feel really shitty for being hypocritical. If you haven’t always been a vegeterian/vegan then you should understand, and if you have never been a omnivore before, then maybe you should try stepping into his shoes. We are brought up into a society that tells us that it is perfectly reasonable to slaughter animals for a meal, but then we are told that abusing/neglating a domestic pet is wrong. Basically, things seem to be upside down at times. Sometimes you just have to face that facts that some people aren’t going to be like you and have to respect their choices as he respects yours.
You can’t make him want to stop eating meat, but informing him about the horrors of the meat industry is a great way to start changing his views. slowly transition him, mix faux meats with real and slowly wean him off all animal products:) if all else fails don’t breako apart! Do like i do! make him separate meals or make him fend for himself! Like isaid you can’t make them change (my wouldn’t). Just know that in your heart you are helping animals and if they aren’t, oh well. Keep on trying and best of luck! And encourage him, let hI’m know that faux meals taste as tastey as meat abd animal product meals