• This isn't normal... Is it??

    Profile photo of Styna

    Over a year ago

    My boyfriend and I were talking last night. He’s been feeling ill a lot lately, and I have been trying to get him to start eating better – but he’s not moving in with me until next year, and he lives about 30 minutes away, so I can’t really keep an eye on what he’s eating all the time. He’s notorious for eating fast food as often as he can.
    He likes the healthy vegan stuff I make him, but he wont make it himself. He seems to think it would take too much effort… because throwing some tofu in the skillet is more difficult than throwing a couple hot pockets in the microwave? Hmmm…
    We were talking last night, because I just went shopping and got a alot of fruit. I tried multiple times to get him to eat -SOMETHING- with some sort of nutritional value (just wait until I finish my homemade green powder… He’ll never even know when he’s getting doses of healthy stuff), to which he responded “I had a can of pears earlier.”
    A can of pears.
    A CAN of pears. In heavy syrup, no doubt.
    I’m all for canning your own food (gotta prepare for the zombie apocalypse!) but commercially canned fruits are absolutely NOT an adequate replacement for raw fruits.
    Have you ever looked at the nutritional info on a can of fruit?
    There is exactly… 0%. You may as well drink a soda and call it an apple.
    No offense to people who eat canned fruit for the taste – I love me a can of fruit cocktail now and then. But it simply is not a good replacement, or any kind of replacement, for the nutrition you get from raw fruit.
    So I asked him when the last time he had a real raw piece of fruit was.
    He said he wasn’t sure, but it was definitely over a year ago.
    Even when I was a total junk-food-junkie, I still ate fruit almost everyday. I guess it was just how I was raised.

    So then we got on the subject of types of fruit and vegetables.
    And came to the conclusion that he has NEVER tried a raw pear.
    has NEVER tried a raw grapefruit.
    has NEVER tried starfruit (which is sort of understandable, I guess)

    And there is a whole slew of vegetables he doesn’t know if he likes, because he cant remember if he ever tried them. But his general rule of thumb has always been “if its green, I dont like it” which is funny. Because everytime I have made something he was SURE he didn’t like, he ended up loving it.
    This isn’t just his lifestyle now, he was RAISED on total crap.
    So he thinks this is an average, normal lifestyle.
    He thinks it’s normal to eat maybe one piece of fruit a year (were not saying healthy, just normal).
    Normal to never have tried a grapefruit or pear (or cucumber up until last month, which he liked).

    I was raised in the midst of a crazy divided family. And while both sides were totally into junk food, and fast food, and meat and potatoes… both sides were also very casual about fruit being a part of a daily diet. We always had fresh fruit sitting out, and a normal breakfast would be a grapefruit (with brown sugar -.-) or a banana cut up into oatmeal, with the occasional bowl of cereal.
    So to me, daily fruit has always been normal.
    My roommates have always enjoyed fruit.
    Most of the people I know (which really isn’t many, because I generally don’t like people) eat fruit.

    So I guess my question is, what have all of you experienced when it comes to this?
    Does your family eat fruit regularly?

    I don’t want to believe that the average 21 year old man has never tasted a pear before, and “wouldn’t even know how to go about eating it.”

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  • Profile photo of Styna

    Over a year ago

    Thanks for all the great advice, guys.
    I suppose the subject should have been more along the lines of “is this common?” as opposed to “normal”
    It makes me shudder to think that it -is- so common.
    We came to an agreement though. Until he moves in, he will come over for at least one home-cooked meal a week. All of which will be vegan. He didn’t agree to that last part… but it’s happening, and I doubt he’ll mind.

    You should have seen how hard I had to work just to get him to try a baby sweet pickle because he hates dill pickles hah.
    But if I nag long enough, he eventually tries whatever it is, and MOST times I don’t have to nag.
    So I’m lucky in the sense that he isn’t TERRIBLY stubborn.

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  • Profile photo of teatowls

    Over a year ago

    Normal is a subjective term, what’s normal to him may not be normal to you or another person. For example it could be viewed as normal to see homeless people on the street but another person would be horrified, it depends all on how you were raised and the environment you live in.

    It may be normal to him but not to you and it definitely doesn’t sound healthy. You should get him to at the very least get the pre-cooked meals with veg so he’s getting something into him at least even though it’s not great it IS better than just rubbish, plus he can just pop it in the microwave so it wouldn’t take him long to do at all.

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  • Profile photo of DrunkTrannyMess

    Over a year ago

    I can understand that. I once took a class with someone who didn’t know giving your kids soda was bad. Some people are ignorant due to their background and as such, the best you can do is slowly educate them.

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  • Profile photo of rainbowslut

    Over a year ago

    Ahaha, that’s hilarious. In a saddening way. My family does not eat fruit regularly, and my roommates sure as hell don’t.

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  • Profile photo of Abnormal4Franz

    Over a year ago

    My mom and I eat lots of fruit and veg everyday, but that is how we were both raised. I grew up in the country so we had an apple orchard and had a garden so we always had fresh home grown food.

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