• This isn't normal... Is it??

    Profile photo of Styna

    Over a year ago

    My boyfriend and I were talking last night. He’s been feeling ill a lot lately, and I have been trying to get him to start eating better – but he’s not moving in with me until next year, and he lives about 30 minutes away, so I can’t really keep an eye on what he’s eating all the time. He’s notorious for eating fast food as often as he can.
    He likes the healthy vegan stuff I make him, but he wont make it himself. He seems to think it would take too much effort… because throwing some tofu in the skillet is more difficult than throwing a couple hot pockets in the microwave? Hmmm…
    We were talking last night, because I just went shopping and got a alot of fruit. I tried multiple times to get him to eat -SOMETHING- with some sort of nutritional value (just wait until I finish my homemade green powder… He’ll never even know when he’s getting doses of healthy stuff), to which he responded “I had a can of pears earlier.”
    A can of pears.
    A CAN of pears. In heavy syrup, no doubt.
    I’m all for canning your own food (gotta prepare for the zombie apocalypse!) but commercially canned fruits are absolutely NOT an adequate replacement for raw fruits.
    Have you ever looked at the nutritional info on a can of fruit?
    There is exactly… 0%. You may as well drink a soda and call it an apple.
    No offense to people who eat canned fruit for the taste – I love me a can of fruit cocktail now and then. But it simply is not a good replacement, or any kind of replacement, for the nutrition you get from raw fruit.
    So I asked him when the last time he had a real raw piece of fruit was.
    He said he wasn’t sure, but it was definitely over a year ago.
    Even when I was a total junk-food-junkie, I still ate fruit almost everyday. I guess it was just how I was raised.

    So then we got on the subject of types of fruit and vegetables.
    And came to the conclusion that he has NEVER tried a raw pear.
    has NEVER tried a raw grapefruit.
    has NEVER tried starfruit (which is sort of understandable, I guess)

    And there is a whole slew of vegetables he doesn’t know if he likes, because he cant remember if he ever tried them. But his general rule of thumb has always been “if its green, I dont like it” which is funny. Because everytime I have made something he was SURE he didn’t like, he ended up loving it.
    This isn’t just his lifestyle now, he was RAISED on total crap.
    So he thinks this is an average, normal lifestyle.
    He thinks it’s normal to eat maybe one piece of fruit a year (were not saying healthy, just normal).
    Normal to never have tried a grapefruit or pear (or cucumber up until last month, which he liked).

    I was raised in the midst of a crazy divided family. And while both sides were totally into junk food, and fast food, and meat and potatoes… both sides were also very casual about fruit being a part of a daily diet. We always had fresh fruit sitting out, and a normal breakfast would be a grapefruit (with brown sugar -.-) or a banana cut up into oatmeal, with the occasional bowl of cereal.
    So to me, daily fruit has always been normal.
    My roommates have always enjoyed fruit.
    Most of the people I know (which really isn’t many, because I generally don’t like people) eat fruit.

    So I guess my question is, what have all of you experienced when it comes to this?
    Does your family eat fruit regularly?

    I don’t want to believe that the average 21 year old man has never tasted a pear before, and “wouldn’t even know how to go about eating it.”

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  • Profile photo of DearNickee

    Over a year ago

    He’s a lucky young man to have such a sweet and caring girlfriend. 🙂

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  • Profile photo of livelovelife

    Over a year ago

    Can you make a meal entirely of what you want him to eat, and invite him over? When he moves to your place it will be easier. Just keep cooking your style, and he will hopefully aquire a taste for these new, fresh fruits and veggies.

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  • Profile photo of Dagmar

    Over a year ago

    Unfortunately, this is a common problem in the US. Eating fast and easy, cheap food has replaced quality. People don’t even know what kind of crap they are eating. Most people don’t read the nutrition facts or the ingredients and that is a costly mistake. My advice to help him get the missing nutrients is get a juicer. It doesn’t have to be fancy, but you can get kale, carrots, apples, whatever and make them into fresh juices. This is a start to help fill in those holes. Also., try cooking together to get the ball rolling. Start with easy stuff and look up 20-minute vegan meals. Lots of stuff out their that are healthy and easy.

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  • Profile photo of chenli

    Over a year ago

    Sad thing is, we’re so indoctrinated from birth about animal products, and with all the adverts showing us cheap, fast and ‘tasty’ foods, we fall for it every time. Well, the knuckle dragging cavemen do. If fruit and veg had as much advertising and backing as the meat/dairy/etc industries do, then there would probably be a lot more people eating it. Humans are so easy to manipulate, it’s sad really. Just try and introduce him to one fruit at a time….as he might just shun you if you try it all at once.

    As for my family. My mum eats bananas on occassion. I don’t eat as much fruit as I would like to as sometimes it can be expensive depending on the fruit I fancy at the time. But I will buy the more expensive ones if they are reduced. I had raspberries today that normally cost ÂŁ2.50 for a small punnet. They were reduced to 63p.

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  • Profile photo of VeganCaramel

    Over a year ago

    I never see my mom eat fruit. The occasional banana every… year or so? Or maybe an apple pie. My sister is more of a vegetable person, but isn’t afraid of fruits. And I’m the “fruitiest” eater in our household, even though I only have 2-3 servings of fruit on average (unless it’s smoothie time!)

    Also, there are some fruits that people just never get around to eating. I ate kiwi once in my life and decided I didn’t like kiwi. But to never have ANY fruit at all, is obviously unhealthy.

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