• This isn't normal... Is it??

    Profile photo of Styna

    Over a year ago

    My boyfriend and I were talking last night. He’s been feeling ill a lot lately, and I have been trying to get him to start eating better – but he’s not moving in with me until next year, and he lives about 30 minutes away, so I can’t really keep an eye on what he’s eating all the time. He’s notorious for eating fast food as often as he can.
    He likes the healthy vegan stuff I make him, but he wont make it himself. He seems to think it would take too much effort… because throwing some tofu in the skillet is more difficult than throwing a couple hot pockets in the microwave? Hmmm…
    We were talking last night, because I just went shopping and got a alot of fruit. I tried multiple times to get him to eat -SOMETHING- with some sort of nutritional value (just wait until I finish my homemade green powder… He’ll never even know when he’s getting doses of healthy stuff), to which he responded “I had a can of pears earlier.”
    A can of pears.
    A CAN of pears. In heavy syrup, no doubt.
    I’m all for canning your own food (gotta prepare for the zombie apocalypse!) but commercially canned fruits are absolutely NOT an adequate replacement for raw fruits.
    Have you ever looked at the nutritional info on a can of fruit?
    There is exactly… 0%. You may as well drink a soda and call it an apple.
    No offense to people who eat canned fruit for the taste – I love me a can of fruit cocktail now and then. But it simply is not a good replacement, or any kind of replacement, for the nutrition you get from raw fruit.
    So I asked him when the last time he had a real raw piece of fruit was.
    He said he wasn’t sure, but it was definitely over a year ago.
    Even when I was a total junk-food-junkie, I still ate fruit almost everyday. I guess it was just how I was raised.

    So then we got on the subject of types of fruit and vegetables.
    And came to the conclusion that he has NEVER tried a raw pear.
    has NEVER tried a raw grapefruit.
    has NEVER tried starfruit (which is sort of understandable, I guess)

    And there is a whole slew of vegetables he doesn’t know if he likes, because he cant remember if he ever tried them. But his general rule of thumb has always been “if its green, I dont like it” which is funny. Because everytime I have made something he was SURE he didn’t like, he ended up loving it.
    This isn’t just his lifestyle now, he was RAISED on total crap.
    So he thinks this is an average, normal lifestyle.
    He thinks it’s normal to eat maybe one piece of fruit a year (were not saying healthy, just normal).
    Normal to never have tried a grapefruit or pear (or cucumber up until last month, which he liked).

    I was raised in the midst of a crazy divided family. And while both sides were totally into junk food, and fast food, and meat and potatoes… both sides were also very casual about fruit being a part of a daily diet. We always had fresh fruit sitting out, and a normal breakfast would be a grapefruit (with brown sugar -.-) or a banana cut up into oatmeal, with the occasional bowl of cereal.
    So to me, daily fruit has always been normal.
    My roommates have always enjoyed fruit.
    Most of the people I know (which really isn’t many, because I generally don’t like people) eat fruit.

    So I guess my question is, what have all of you experienced when it comes to this?
    Does your family eat fruit regularly?

    I don’t want to believe that the average 21 year old man has never tasted a pear before, and “wouldn’t even know how to go about eating it.”

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  • Profile photo of Styna

    Over a year ago

    that is -exactly- what I thought, too! How could a parent (my bf also has a brother and a sister, raised the same way, and I think they eat the same way now too, but not sure) raise their kids in such an unhealthy manner?
    I love his family, they are absolutely wonderful, but everytime I’ve been over for dinner, it’s always something from somewhere. Chinese food, pizza, etc, and I guess that is just how they -always- eat and always have.
    When I was young, we had chips and candy and ice cream around, but we almost -always- had home-made meals. Food from other places was a special occasion type of thing.

    My bf and I were talking about adopting a kid in the future, and I mentioned that I would absolutely want to raise it on a healthy vegan diet. He was NOT down for that. I believe his exact words were “I don’t want my kid to be raised on a crazy liberal diet”. Because, you know… liberal and healthy are the same thing apparently?
    No, I would just want my child to have the best diet it could have. I would want him/her to be aware of -what- he/she is eating. It’s not like I would deny him/her treats, but you can have treats in moderation and still be healthy.

    I know, in general, Americans aren’t very healthy. But I honestly didn’t realize it was becoming a “one piece of fruit a year” kind of problem.
    Like you said, it’s not expensive. Even food pantries offer lots of healthy options these days… which should have been my first clue. For a while, I was going to food pantries because, well… I had to. And all the healthier stuff was always bountiful, and the other stuff was slim pickings. I realize now, it wasn’t because they over-ordered the healthy stuff. It was because nobody took it. They all took the other crap. I still have bags of dried beans from those days.

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    Over a year ago

    It’s sad, but that’s pretty common around where I live. I wasn’t raised like that, not even close. We always had a garden and ate the vegetables from that. Ever since I was little I always leaned more towards vegetarian foods(plain cheese quesadillas, meatless spaghetti and lasaga, ect.) I can’t imagine not eating fruit or veggies, just the thought of living like that makes me feel gross.

    What’s worse, I can’t imagine raising your kids like that. How can anyone think that’s healthy or even close to healthy? You don’t have to have money to eat well. It’s called rice bean and frozen vegetables. Jeez.

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