• Vegetarian to Vegan

    Profile photo of cortnieeeee

    Over a year ago

    I’ve been a vegetarian for almost two months. I finally started after wanting to be one for eight years (half my life) and decided to just do it and ignore the consequences from my family, because after finally doing my research I was disgusted and couldn’t live with myself anymore if I ever touched a piece of meat again.

    I’ve made this change with a lot of negative response from my mother. She ridicules me and makes it difficult for me to eat. She’s just very nasty to me and tries to trick me into eating meat all the time.

    Since the day I did that research, I’ve wanted to be vegan. But my stepmother, vegetarian now for years and vegan for two years, as well as my dad advised I start out vegetarian and see where my health goes, as well as my mother’s reaction, and go from there.

    I can’t stand not being vegan anymore, I just feel so much guilt. BUT, I’m afraid I won’t be able to eat when at my mother’s house, and I’m also afraid of the reactions I’ll have from my whole family. I’m not allowed to have a job and am closely monitored, so it’s pretty hard for me to make money to go out and buy my own food.

    So, what should I do? Should I just go vegan and not say a word, go vegan and inform my family (my dad and his wife will surely notice, but not my mother for a while), or suck it up, feign ignorance, and stay vegetarian until I move out?

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  • Profile photo of cortnieeeee

    Over a year ago

    @kelseyr2 yea, that’s definitely true. i’ve been seeing the recommendations to look at recipes we can eat and found a lot of tasty looking ones on here. hopefully she’s not too scared to eat it!! thanks for your advice :)

    @hakred thank you! yea, i’ve brought food with me from my dads before and it works because she takes it as a personal offense to her motherhood haha so that usually brings some attention to her lack of support. yea, i’m really grateful for having my stepmom in my life, she’s a HUGE help it’s nice i at least have support when im at their house :) thank you for your feedback!

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  • Profile photo of cortnieeeee

    Over a year ago

    @kelseyr2 yea, that’s definitely true. i’ve been seeing the recommendations to look at recipes we can eat and found a lot of tasty looking ones on here. hopefully she’s not too scared to eat it!! thanks for your advice :)

    @hakred thank you! yea, i’ve brought food with me from my dads before and it works because she takes it as a personal offense to her motherhood haha so that usually brings some attention to her lack of support. yea, i’m really grateful for having my stepmom in my life, she’s a HUGE help it’s nice i at least have support when im at their house :) thank you for your feedback!

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  • Profile photo of hakred

    Over a year ago

    I always had the same problem with my mom, I brought food with me when I visited and still do. I recommend that you just go at your own pace. Congrats on your decision to go veg*n by the way! It’s great that you have a more experienced vegan to play such a big role in your life, she can help to guide you. :)

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  • Profile photo of Kelseyr2

    Over a year ago

    It’s hard when you live at home and you don’t have the support of your parents. My parents supported me going vegetarian in high school (my mom more so than my dad) but even so, when I brought up veganism that didn’t go over too well. It’s tough when you’re not paying for the groceries – but the best way to do it is to find simple recipes your mom will enjoy as well. Avoid recipes with dairy substitutes – that can get expensive, and I can imagine your mom arguing that veganism is expensive, which it doesn’t have to be.

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  • Profile photo of cortnieeeee

    Over a year ago

    @styna oh man, i’m so sorry to hear about your dad.. that’s good though that he’s gotten to know you really do know what you’re talking about. but it sounds like you had it rough over there. thats awesome about your mom though!! i can’t even get over that that’s great :)
    that’s a really good point, using food that isn’t “fake” if only to keep them from being scared of it. i’ll never begin to understand the butter thing lol i ate it for like two years before i went veggie because my stepmom had it in the house and never knew it wasn’t dairy-based
    thank you sooo much for all this help you’ve given me, honestly it’s made me feel a whole lot better like less closed in :)

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